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Sharpening the Saw When You Have No Time

Staying up to speed can be hard, especially if you have kids or other heavy demands on your time and attention. To make up for that I like to listen to audio books / podcasts when my hands are busy but my mind isn't.

Here are a few podcasts to get you started:

If you prefer something a little longer I highly suggest heading over to audible.com and creating an account. Audio books are especially useful if you do a lot of driving, and my children have listened to a LOT of business books as we traveled cross country to and from Grandma's house. I'm not sure how much good it's done them, but worst case scenario it helped them to go to sleep and stop annoying each other.

Another favorite technique of mine is to replace TV viewing with something a little more substantial. I used to (and sometimes still do) watch Netflix as I drifted off to sleep, or on the rare occasions when I mustered up the gumption to hop on the elliptical trainer. Instead of something mindless, try a conference video or a Ted talk for a change of pace.

Finally, you should always have at least one book with you. At some point each month I find myself stuck waiting for someone or something with nothing else to do.  Books fill that time nicely.

However you do it, try and find a little bit of time to learn and grow every day. Five minutes here and there add up a lot faster than you think!

Feelings Matter

Note to self: Feelings matter.

It's not necessary that you think their feelings are rational. It is necessary that you find out why they feel the way they do (let the other person use their words and just listen), and then address the feelings.

Acknowledge that the feelings are real, and that the person has the right to feel the way they do, and then ask the person what precisely would make them feel better. You might not be able to solve the problem exactly the way they would prefer, but you can at least move towards an amicable solution.

Now, I just have to remember this when it counts.

The Challenge of Management

There comes a time in most middle aged men's lives where they look at their boss and think to themselves "I can do better than that." Well, if you're as full of yourself as I am you've had that thought since you were about ten.

I took a management role a little over a year ago, and while I like to think that I am better than most of the managers I've had over the years, it's honestly often a really close race. I have a technical background and try and stay up to speed on what has changed in the last year and a half. So I've got that going for me at least.

My challenges tend not to be managing down, although let me state for the case that I do have challenges there. My challenges tend to be managing sideways, and writing without running out of commas. How do you manage your peers as a manager? And a bit higher on the difficulty scale, how do you manage your non-technical peers? More...